“For Now Over 21 Years, I Have Been Single, No Man Wants Me Since My Husband Died” 57 Year Old Lusaka Woman Tells
My name is Janet, and I live in Munali, Zambia. For many years, I have carried a pain that I have never fully shared with anyone. When my husband died more than 21 years ago, I believed that after some time, life would return to normal. I thought I would meet someone again, someone who would bring joy, love, and companionship back into my life. But things turned out very differently.
Instead of healing with time, my life became lonelier. Every man who showed interest in me suddenly disappeared without any clear reason. Some would stop talking to me after a few days, others would make promises but never come back. I tried to convince myself that maybe it was just bad luck, but deep inside, I felt something was not right. My friends moved on, some remarried, others rebuilt their relationships, but I remained stuck in the same place—alone.
What hurt me the most was how society started viewing me. People whispered, saying maybe I was cursed, or maybe something was chasing men away from me. At first, I ignored the rumors, but after many years of the same painful pattern, I started wondering if they were right. I prayed, fasted, and even visited counselors, but nothing changed. My home became quiet, and I grew older without companionship. At 57 years old, the loneliness became heavier than ever.
My turning point came when my niece visited me from Chilanga. She found me crying one evening and asked me what was wrong. I explained everything—how every man I tried to talk to suddenly pulled away, how I felt unwanted, and how my life had completely stopped after my husband’s death. She listened carefully, and then she told me about something that had helped her friend. She said there were people who handle problems that cannot be solved by ordinary means. She wrote a number on a small paper and told me to keep it safe.
It was in the fourth chapter of this painful journey that I was introduced traditional healer Dr Danny. At first, I doubted. I had never reached out to anyone like them before. But after being single for more than two decades, I felt I had nothing left to lose. I called them and explained my situation. They told me that some people experience spiritual blockages after losing a partner—things that push away new love, or spirits that tie a person to their past. They assured me that they could help by performing a cleansing and attracting-love spell. The best part was that I did not have to travel anywhere. They said they could do everything from where they were, and I only needed to follow their instructions.
I decided to trust the process. After they cast the spell, something changed inside me. I felt lighter, relaxed, and for the first time in many years, hopeful. A few weeks later, I started noticing small differences. Men who used to ignore me suddenly greeted me warmly. One gentleman I used to see at the market began showing interest in me. At first, I thought it was just coincidence, but more things kept happening. People who never paid attention to me before started speaking to me with respect and kindness.
The biggest surprise happened when a widower who lives in my neighborhood approached me. We had spoken before over the years, but he had never shown any sign of interest. This time, he asked if we could get to know each other better. I could hardly believe it. For the first time since my husband died, someone looked at me as a woman—not just as a lonely widow. My heart was full. Even at 57, I felt alive again.
I share this testimony because I know many women suffer silently. Some believe age has closed all doors. Some believe that widowhood means the end of love. But I am living proof that life can still change, even after twenty long years of pain. If you feel like something is blocking your relationships, do not give up.
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I will share the number my niece gave me, the same number that opened the door to my new beginning. This is the only contact I used, and it was the turning point of my story. Help can come when you least expect it. Today, I am no longer crying from loneliness. I am rebuilding my life slowly, with hope and confidence. I believe that if it worked for me, it can work for someone else reading this right now.
